Differences of opinions even occur within a marriage.For example, I know a woman who recently asked her husband to either give her his Facebook password or close out his account after she found an email that he had sent to a former classmate that she found to be rather suggestive.The problem arises when a woman seeks not just to be beautiful, but to be sexually attractive to a man who is not her husband.
Every woman’s desire to be attractive is natural and good.
Feminine beauty is meant to be a gift to the world, and in special way to our husbands.
After researching the topic and talking to a few family therapists, I pulled together the following nine red flags. Because by deleting them, you are guessing that your spouse would be upset if she read them, and that you are covering up something. But if you notice that your correspondence with this person feeds your sexual fantasies (because an affair is often about sexual fantasy) then you are probably in dangerous waters.
Moreover, ask yourself this question: "How would I feel if I knew my wife (or husband) was corresponding to an attractive man in the way I talk to X? If the communications consist of subtle sexual overtones, watch out.
Recent research has indicated that online cheating usually leads to physical encounters.
So, when does flirting cross that invisible line from innocent bantering to dangerous dialogue? If you are deleting your emails -- either to her or from her -- that's a red flag.
These are concerns not only for married couples, but for dating couples, particularly those in committed relationships who are discerning marriage.
Even the very best of marriages can fall prey to temptations brought on by innocent (enough) flirtations.
Those boundaries differ with each relationship, of course.
What would be considered a violation in one marriage might be perfectly acceptable for another couple.
It’s easy to think that flirting is harmless, especially in our culture, but the human sexual drive is so powerful that I think it is dangerous ever to treat it casually.