For now, let’s ignore Gawker’s weird graphic, and also put the issue of dating tech guys in Seattle on hold.
I like to help them be memorable and funny to stand out from all the mediocre messagers they’re competing with.
During this process, I do my best to disengage enough so that the content and vibe of messages is still primarily coming from them, and written in their voice, complete with their typos and emojis and i Phone signature and whatever else makes it “theirs.” This last part is so, so important to me.
There is no way anyone can dig up your entire Google-able personal history. Beyond the obvious: deems catfishing impossible, plus the fact that no one goes on blind dates anymore and that makes blind dates extra charming and feel free to totally use that as a conversation topic.
CON: Your date doesn't really look like that photo of him/her from five years ago atop Machu Picchu.
We ended up changing the venue of one “taco” date because while it was an adventurous hole-in-the-wall, it wasn’t a particularly good adventurous hole-in-the-wall.
Sure, Project Fixup does all the heavy lifting, but make sure you know what they’re holding. Your Fixup dashboard delivers just a brief summary of the person you’re to meet and an internal phone number that routes calls and text messages while keeping your phone numbers private. Photos are used for the internal matchmaking process, but that's it.I just love the part of the job that’s getting to know a person, understanding their personality and quirks, helping them translate that to a catchy profile, helping them learn how to read others’ profiles and message accordingly, and honing the way they think about talking to people on dating sites.I strive to keep a client-heavy writing balance—in fact, most of my clients’ profiles are about 90% their sentiments, just recycled in ways that they wouldn’t come up with on their own.Learning why your profile isn’t working for you is often a matter of basic problem solving with some outside expertise.For example, that photo you think is flattering is actually hard to see when sized down in search results, or the jokes you think are funny are falling flat in the written medium even though they’d be funny in person, or you aren’t taking full advantage of the robust search and filtering features the technology offers you, or you’re failing to enact online-dating-specific measures to avoid unpleasant or unsafe encounters in real life.This pragmatic and educational piece is so helpful for most singles who find the whole online dating process overwhelming or stressful. How can you keep your chin up when you continue getting crude and offensive messages about your appearance?