I notice other parents with more than one child also experience their kids as vastly different in basic temperament.
In fact, the mistakes I make are even more shocking given my immersion in the topic.
I write because, by nature and by training, I am an observer of emotional dynamics.
My other daughter shares a lot and has an intense and passionate nature.
Likewise, I’ve grown to “learn” her and manage myself in important ways in order to parent her the best I can.
I just read another article that was very blaming of parents... Maybe that applies to some or even many, but a general statement like that isn't helpful or accurate.
Teens are more stressed because parents don't have time... Have you seen the stress that school alone heaps on them now? My daughter tells me straight up that school is the problem and yet she's a top student. Thanks again for starting the conversation in a healthy way:-) Alice I just wanted to applaud you for the tone and attitude of your article, as well as content.I welcome your thoughts, questions, and suggestions.My 15 daughter has a friend who is basically a good kid, however, this friend has no boundaries from her parents and frequently lies.However, I am afraid that if I banish my daughter from seeing this friend, she will not have learned a lesson in how to stand up for herself and what she believes in.How can I support the friendship while staying true to the values I want my daughter to have?Parents everywhere struggle to respond appropriately to the challenging behavior, hit-or-miss communication, and fluctuating moods we see in teenage girls. As a clinical psychologist specializing in teens, I work with teen girls and their parents nearly every day.