But, I told her, 'We don't go text for text.' Just because he sends a message doesn't mean you're obligated to respond all the time." There a kind of empowerment in a concept like that.How often have we analyzed and fretted over the precise timing and language of a text conversation?
"It’s funny, because my now-husband knew what I was up to.
He tried calling me out on it, saying, 'I don’t need to play these rules with you.
Vanessa puts a more flexible spin on Ellen and Sherrie's program.
For her, it boils down to creating healthy boundaries and establishing your own power in the relationship, right from the start.
Here, you'll find Rules like, "Wait for a guy to follow you on Twitter first," and, "Wait at least four hours to return a guy's first text." Chapters also include tips for weight loss ("an average-looking slender girl has a better chance of attracting a guy than a very pretty overweight girl") and a section titled "Be Cautious About Date Rape." "If you do decide to drink, be smart about it," say Ellen and Sherrie.
"On campus, you hear about date rape all too often — stories of girls who drank too much and suffered the consequences." may have evolved since 1995, but the Rules Girl looks the same: She is aloof and demure.
I spoke with Vanessa Taylor, a Rules Coach based in Los Angeles.
On her blog, Platinum Girl: The World's Most Precious Woman, Taylor analyzes celebrity relationships through the lens of are tools for women to stop men from ruining their lives.
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" relies on a very traditional sense of what love and courtship are," says writer, speaker, and technologist Samhita Mukhopadhyay.
"You can see Britney Spears’ demise happened around the same time she proposed to Kevin Federline," she says.